At the cusp of new beginnings many of us take time to reflect on our lives by looking back over the past and ahead into the future. We ponder the successes, failures and standout events that are slowly scripting our life’s story. This process of self reflection helps maintain a conscious awareness of where we’ve been and where we intend to go. It is pertinent to the organization and preservation of our dreams, goals and desires.
If you would like to maximize the benefits of self reflection, I have 20 questions for you. These questions should be reviewed every Sunday morning or sometime during the weekend when you have some quiet time to think. Remember, reflection is the key to progression.
What did I learn last week? – If you have trouble answering this question, it’s time for a change. It doesn’t matter how old you are, you should learn something new every week.
What was my greatest accomplishment over the past week? – Reflecting on your accomplishments is a healthy way to raise self confidence and contentment. It’s also an effective way to track your progress.
Which moment from last week was the most memorable and why? – It may open up your mind to new passions and goals, or simple pastimes worth revisiting.
What’s the #1 thing I need to accomplish this week? – Everything else is secondary, and should be treated as such. Nevertheless, this question will also shine light on other noteworthy tasks.
What can I do right now to make the week less stressful? – Set reminders in your calendar, get your laundry done, fill the car with gas… organize yourself.
What have I struggled with in the past that might also affect the upcoming week? – The idea here is to learn from your struggles and better equip yourself for future encounters.
What was last week’s biggest time sink? – Steer clear of this in the future. Setup physical barriers against distractions if you have to.
Am I carrying any excess baggage into the week that can be dropped? – Physical clutter, mental clutter… eliminate the unnecessary so the necessary may shine bright.
What have I been avoiding that needs to get done? – Pencil in a time to get these things done. For any 2-minute or less tasks, consider scheduling them first thing Monday morning.
What opportunities are still on the table? – If it’s still available and you want it, make a concrete plan to go after it this week.
Is there anyone I’ve been meaning to talk to? – Regular communication can solve problems before they fester. Always keep an open line of communication to those around you.
Is there anyone that deserves a big ‘Thank You’? – Take time each week to thank the people who have helped you. Your kind gesture will not go unnoticed.
How can I help someone else this coming week? – The easiest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. If you help them, they will remember you when you need help.
What are my top 3 goals for the next 3 years? – You’ll never make any progress in life if you don’t setup realistic goals for yourself.
Have any of my recent actions moved me closer to my goals? – If the answer is no, something needs to change.
What’s the next step for each goal? – Knowing the next step is the key to accomplishing the whole.
What am I looking forward to during the upcoming week? – The answer can act as a great source of motivation. If nothing exists, schedule something to look forward to.
What are my fears? – Consciously address your fears each week and slowly work on resolving them. It’s all about taking baby steps.
What am I most grateful for? – It’s a smart way to keep things in perspective, and something you should never lose sight of.
If I knew I only had one week to live, who would I spend my time with? – Another helpful reminder… Life is short. Spend more time with the people you care about.
Take 30 minutes every Sunday and give yourself the gift of self reflection. It has worked wonders for me, and I am confident it will do the same for you.
在每個(gè)新開始的時(shí)候,我們很多人都喜歡花時(shí)間通過回顧過去展望未來來反省我們的生活。我們思索成功,失敗及那些慢慢勾畫出我們的生活故事的顯著事件。這個(gè)自我反省的過程幫助我們清醒地意識(shí)到我們到了哪里以及我們要去哪里。它和我們密切相關(guān)并且保護(hù)我們的夢(mèng)想,目標(biāo)和渴望。
如果你想要使自我反省的利益最大化,我為你準(zhǔn)備了20個(gè)問題。這些問題應(yīng)該在每個(gè)周日的早晨或者一周內(nèi)某個(gè)時(shí)間你有安靜的時(shí)間去思考的時(shí)候反復(fù)思考。記住,反思是進(jìn)步的關(guān)鍵。
1. 你上周學(xué)到了什么?——如果你在回答這個(gè)問題的時(shí)候有困難,就是你應(yīng)該做些改變的時(shí)間了。不管你多大,你每個(gè)周都應(yīng)該學(xué)習(xí)一些新東西。
2. 上周我最大的成就是什么?——反思你的成就是一種建立自信和滿足的健康方式。它也是一種記錄你的進(jìn)步的有效方式。
3. 從上周開始那個(gè)時(shí)刻是最值得紀(jì)念的,為什么?——它可以打開你的思想去接受或者開始新的感情和目標(biāo),或者只是簡(jiǎn)單的回憶過去值得紀(jì)念的時(shí)光。
4. 我這個(gè)周需要放到第一位去做的事情是什么? ——所有其他的事情都是第二位的,而且應(yīng)該這樣對(duì)待。然而,這個(gè)問題應(yīng)該也可以照亮其他值得記錄的任務(wù)。
5. 我現(xiàn)在可以做什么可以使這個(gè)周不那么緊張和有壓力?——在你的日歷上設(shè)置提醒,洗衣,為汽車加滿汽油……組織你自己的生活,使它有條理。
6. 我上周作的什么抗?fàn)幨遣皇且矔?huì)影響到下個(gè)周?——這里的這個(gè)主意是為了要從你的困難里吸取教訓(xùn)以及可以讓自己為將來的困難做更好的準(zhǔn)備。
7. 上周最大的時(shí)間浪費(fèi)是什么?——今后要清醒地避開。如有必要設(shè)置一些身體方面的障礙以避免分心。
8. 我是不是背負(fù)了過多的本可以丟掉的包袱進(jìn)入下下個(gè)周?——身體方面的混亂,精神上的混亂……要消除這些不必要的因素,這樣那些必要的東西就會(huì)發(fā)光。
9. 我一直避免但是應(yīng)該做的事情——用鉛筆把這些事情列出來。對(duì)于任何只需兩分鐘就可以完成的任務(wù)或者任何花費(fèi)時(shí)間很少的任務(wù),可以考慮把他們列入周一早晨第一件要做的事情。
10. 哪些機(jī)會(huì)是仍然還在的?——如果它仍在而且你仍然想要這個(gè)機(jī)會(huì),這個(gè)周就制定個(gè)周詳?shù)挠?jì)劃去抓住它。
11. 是不是有個(gè)人我一直想要去和他談話?——有規(guī)律的交流可以在問題惡化之前就得到解決,時(shí)刻對(duì)于你周圍的人們敞開交流之門。
12. 是不是有人知道你致以最深的謝意。——每周都花一些時(shí)間去感謝那些幫助過你的人。你的這種友善的做法不會(huì)被忽視的。
13. 在下個(gè)周我可以怎樣幫助別人? ——想要得到自己想要的東西最簡(jiǎn)單的做法是幫助別人得到他們想要的。如果你幫助了他們,當(dāng)你需要幫忙的時(shí)候他們會(huì)想起你的。
14. 我以后3年3個(gè)最高目標(biāo)是什么?——如果你不為自己設(shè)立現(xiàn)實(shí)的目標(biāo)的話你永遠(yuǎn)都不可能在生活中獲得進(jìn)步。
15. 我最近的行動(dòng)有沒有使我朝我的目標(biāo)更近了一些?——如果答案是否定的,就需要做些改變了。
16. 每個(gè)目標(biāo)的下一步是什么?——知道下一步是達(dá)到整個(gè)目標(biāo)的關(guān)鍵。
17. 在接下來的一周我想要的是什么?——答案可以作為動(dòng)力的主要來源。如果沒有什么,制定一些要去追求的東西。
18. 我害怕的是什么?——每周有意識(shí)地記下你所害怕的東西,然后慢慢攻克解決他們。只是需要一些小步驟而已。
19. 我最感激的是什么?——這是全面正確地看待事物的最好方法,而且也是你永遠(yuǎn)不不該忽視的事情。
20. 如果我知道我的生命只還有一周,我會(huì)和誰一起度過余生?——另一個(gè)有用的提醒——生命是短暫的。多花些時(shí)間和你在乎的人一起度過。
每個(gè)周日花上30分鐘反省一下自己。對(duì)我來說非常有用,而且我相信它對(duì)你也會(huì)有用處的。