Highly happy people all share happy habits. It’s as simple as that. The happiest people I know share 7 very obvious habits. If you’re looking to expand your general happiness you may consider adopting these habits in your own life.
Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.
-Abraham Lincoln
Be a Part of Something You Believe In – This could be anything. People may take an active role in their local city council, find refuge in religious faith, join a social club supporting causes they believe in, or find passion in their careers. In each case the physiological outcome is the same. They engage themselves in something they strongly believe in. This engagement brings happiness and meaning into their lives.
Share Time with Friends and Family – A happy life is a life shared with friends and family. The stronger the personal relationships are and the higher the frequency of interaction, the happier a person will be.
Reflect on the Good – Quite often people concentrate too much of their attention on negative outcomes and leave no time to positively reflect on their successes. It’s natural for a person to want to correct undesirable circumstances and focus closely on doing so, but there must be a healthy balance in the allocation of personal awareness. It is important to mindfully reflect on the good while striving diligently to correct the bad. A continuous general awareness of your daily successes can have a noticeably positive affect on your overall emotional happiness.
Exploit the Resources You DO Have Access To – The average person is usually astonished when they see a physically handicap person show intense signs of emotional happiness. How could someone in such a restricted physical state be so happy? The answer rests in how they use the resources they do have. Stevie Wonder couldn’t see, so he exploited his sense of hearing into a passion for music, and he now has 25 Grammy Awards to prove it.
Create Happy Endings Whenever Possible – The power of endings is quite remarkable. The end of any experience has a profound impact on a person’s overall perception of the experience as a whole. Think about reading a fairly well written, thought provoking novel. Now imagine the ending totally sucks. Even if the story was captivating up until the ending, would you still be happy recommending the novel to a friend? People always remember the ending. If the ending is happy, the experience creates happiness. Always tie loose ends, leave things on a good note, and create happy endings in your life whenever possible.
Use Personal Strengths to Get Things Done – Everyone possesses unique personal strengths. We all have different talents and skill sets. Emotional happiness comes naturally to those who use their strengths to get things done. The state of completion always creates a sense of achievement. If this achievement is based exclusively on your own personal ability to get the job done, the physiological rewards are priceless.
Savor the Natural Joy of Simple Pleasures – I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the best things in life are free. They come in the form of simple pleasures and they appear right in front of you at various locations and arbitrary times. They are governed by Mother Nature and situational circumstance and captured by mindful awareness. It’s all about taking a moment to notice the orange and pink sunset reflecting off the pond water as you hold hands with someone you love. Noticing these moments and taking part in them regularly will bring unpredictable bursts of happiness into your life.
幸福的人都有著相同的習(xí)慣。我認(rèn)識(shí)的最幸福的一個(gè)人就有著7種地球人都知道的習(xí)慣。如果你想讓自己更幸福些,不妨在日常生活中培養(yǎng)起這些習(xí)慣來(lái)。
1.成為你信仰中的一部分。這個(gè)信仰可以是任何事情。你可以是在議會(huì)中扮演重要角色,可以在宗教信仰中尋找情感上的避難所,可以加入那些符合你信仰的社會(huì)團(tuán)體,也可以在你的事業(yè)中尋找激情。不管哪一種方式,目的都是一樣的,那就是讓你投入于自己的信仰,這種投入會(huì)給你的生活帶來(lái)幸福。
2.陪伴家人和朋友。幸福的生活是一種與家人和朋友分享的生活。個(gè)人關(guān)系越強(qiáng)的人會(huì)感覺(jué)越幸福。
3.想想自己好的一面。不少人會(huì)把過(guò)多的注意力放在自己不好的一面,而忽略自己積極的一面。人們會(huì)很自然地想要擺脫不好的狀況,并會(huì)專(zhuān)注于此,但是,人們還必須適當(dāng)?shù)刈晕壹为?jiǎng)。
在努力改正缺點(diǎn)的同時(shí),想想自己好的一面,這是相當(dāng)重要的。不斷提醒自己生活的點(diǎn)點(diǎn)滴滴的成功時(shí),這對(duì)你提高幸福感有著顯著的效果。
4.好好利用你的優(yōu)勢(shì)去創(chuàng)造幸福。一般人看到那些殘疾人表現(xiàn)得無(wú)比幸福的時(shí)候都會(huì)覺(jué)得很震驚——為什么這些身體殘疾的人還能感覺(jué)那么幸福?原因就在于他們很好地發(fā)揮自己所有的優(yōu)勢(shì)去創(chuàng)造幸福。史提芬伍德是個(gè)盲人,于是他利用自己優(yōu)越的聽(tīng)覺(jué),在音樂(lè)世界里尋找激情,25項(xiàng)格萊美獎(jiǎng)證明了他的實(shí)力。
5.盡可能地實(shí)現(xiàn)一個(gè)完美的結(jié)局。結(jié)局的力量是非常巨大的。任何一種經(jīng)歷的結(jié)局都會(huì)對(duì)一個(gè)人產(chǎn)生深遠(yuǎn)的影響,這種影響體現(xiàn)在一個(gè)人對(duì)這一經(jīng)歷的總體認(rèn)知上。就想象一下看小說(shuō)吧,假如過(guò)程很精彩,但結(jié)局卻寫(xiě)得非常糟糕,那你還會(huì)把這部小說(shuō)介紹給朋友嗎?人們往往會(huì)牢記一件事情的結(jié)局,如果結(jié)局完美,那過(guò)程也就完美。把細(xì)枝末節(jié)的事情處理好,盡可能地創(chuàng)造一個(gè)完美的結(jié)局吧!
6.靠自己的能力去完成任務(wù)。每個(gè)人都擁有自己獨(dú)特的能力。我們都擁有不同的天賦和技能。如果一個(gè)人靠自己的能力去完成一件事情,那他會(huì)很自然地感覺(jué)到幸福的降臨。完成一件事情往往能給你帶來(lái)成就感。如果是憑借你自己獨(dú)有的能力去完成的話,那在情感上,對(duì)你來(lái)說(shuō)將是無(wú)價(jià)的。
7.體會(huì)最簡(jiǎn)單、最自然的樂(lè)趣。我以前已經(jīng)說(shuō)過(guò),在這里我再次重申,生活中最幸福的事情就是自由。自由來(lái)自于簡(jiǎn)單的樂(lè)趣,隨時(shí)隨地都會(huì)出現(xiàn)在你面前。自由掌握在大自然手中,被有心人所俘虜。事實(shí)上,自由就是花點(diǎn)時(shí)間在周?chē)氖挛锷?mdash;—夕陽(yáng)西下,湖光瀲滟,你和愛(ài)人十指緊扣欣賞著這一切。經(jīng)常好好感受這樣的時(shí)光,那預(yù)想不到的幸福自然也就填滿你的生活。